Not knowing where you are in your journey of grief of pain can feel like wandering through the woods without a GPS. You could be miles from your destination or just a few steps away, but both places can feel equally hopeless and lost if you don’t know.
…statistics say that our blended family is supposed to struggle to bond, adjust awkwardly, and have a hard time setting healthy boundaries. And honestly, all those things have been true at some point over the last 15 months. But our Savior says that He sees our pain, our frustrations and our desire to be whole.
I remember so clearly the moment I saw you for the first time. The way you smiled at me with your hazel eyes and nervously brushed your blonde hair off of your eyelashes. I knew you were the one right then and I could tell by the way you were looking back at me that you knew it too. That entire date felt as if each moment with you was the only one that mattered. You literally took my breath away.
But there was a catch, you loved another man...
It's been almost 2 years since my late wife, Lyndsie passed away after a bravely fought battle with Ovarian Cancer. In the aftermath, I have grieved deeper, been stretched further and learned more than at any other time in my life.
Because grief is such a personal journey, I found myself surrounded by so many people who were praying and encouraging me, yet I still struggled to find people who could speak specifically and practically to my grief and help guide me through life after loss. As a result, I felt led to step up in this area and encourage other broken people in a way that I longed to be encouraged during my hardest days.
The following posts are a summary of the lessons that I wish I had learned at the very beginning of my grief. I believe that if I had known what I do now, so much more time would have been spent with purpose instead of trying to avoid or numb the pain.
My prayer is that these 7 thoughts will help encourage and guide from darkness to light, from hurting to healing, from lost to found and ultimately to the hope and life we only have in Jesus!
Sometimes as Christians, we put pressure on ourselves to respond to our situations in a spiritually mature way, even when it’s at the expense of dealing with hard hurt. We push down the brokenness and proclaim that God is good so everyone watching will approve…only to have that hurt surface later in a much uglier and obvious way.